tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post4174564456835850911..comments2024-03-26T08:09:33.829+00:00Comments on The Plastic Mancunian: Men Versus Women (Part Two)Plastic Mancunianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-8919654562318527752012-07-11T17:32:58.898+01:002012-07-11T17:32:58.898+01:00Hi Anji,
Yes - I might just do that.
:-)
Cheers...Hi Anji,<br /><br />Yes - I might just do that.<br /><br />:-)<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />PMPlastic Mancunianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-37913831858181063382012-07-11T14:11:56.847+01:002012-07-11T14:11:56.847+01:00Rob is like you. The lest thing I need to hear is...Rob is like you. The lest thing I need to hear is how he would have dealt with the problem.<br /><br />I hope you post about what happens 'next time'.<br /><br /><br /><a href="http://exposeyourblog.com/?r=57977" rel="nofollow">ExposeYourBlog!</a> Joining up bloggers for over two years.Anjihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02562210585479814093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-16309927985335713202012-07-03T19:39:37.577+01:002012-07-03T19:39:37.577+01:00Hi Jackie,
You probably are doing a wonderful job...Hi Jackie,<br /><br />You probably are doing a wonderful job; I know I am (he says bravely).<br /><br />:0)<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />PMPlastic Mancunianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-49546064981619408642012-07-03T19:38:29.606+01:002012-07-03T19:38:29.606+01:00Dearest Lynette,
Indeed - I am even MORE intrigue...Dearest Lynette,<br /><br />Indeed - I am even MORE intrigued (and trying to think cleanly)...<br /><br />:0)<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />PMPlastic Mancunianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-73335064719359661092012-07-03T07:43:17.467+01:002012-07-03T07:43:17.467+01:00Very true. Until I understood this I used to get r...Very true. Until I understood this I used to get really annoyed with my husband who is completely crap at sympathy. Now I wonder if he gets annoyed at me for sympathizing instead of 'helping' when he tells me his troubles? Even though to my mind I am doing a wonderful job making him feel better... I'm probably not!Jackie Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322613989851869319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-32065787734798428292012-07-03T04:39:11.844+01:002012-07-03T04:39:11.844+01:00Dearest PM -
To further intrigue you, the present...Dearest PM -<br /><br />To further intrigue you, the present also comes with photos that I will send to you via email after you get the gift.<br />Hmm, now this is starting to sound a lot dirtier (or secret agent like) than it really is...lol.DelGalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-8498883132392686862012-07-02T22:00:18.706+01:002012-07-02T22:00:18.706+01:00Hi Lady from Delaware,
A lot of the time, when I&...Hi Lady from Delaware,<br /><br />A lot of the time, when I'm in the Doghouse, I have no idea why.<br /><br />But I am improving - gradually.<br /><br />See? I told you opera was rubbish ;-)<br /><br />No - guys don't get gifts for each other usually; a pint of beer in a pub is good enough for me. Mind you, Mark doesn't buy many of them either ;-)<br /><br />I'm intrigued ...<br /><br />:0)<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />PMPlastic Mancunianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-79593533253990664922012-07-02T21:03:28.884+01:002012-07-02T21:03:28.884+01:00Dearest PM -
Men and women are definitely differe...Dearest PM -<br /><br />Men and women are definitely different but I think that some of your examples are extremes of both genders and lots of times both sexes have a little bit of the "other sex" mixed in their brain too depending on the situation (or at least I do and Ive noticed some men do too). <br />For example, I do listen to other women's problems and get into the emotional thing, but I also find myself attempting to solve the problem they've presented depending on the situation. How do I know when to do what with a woman? Good question, it's not something I can pinpoint with directions, it's just an intuitive feeling and changes with each woman.<br />I've no doubt women are confusing creatures, I fully admit that I am at times, but I also think men can be confusing because they aren't as complex as women are so women almost have to reverse think or think less to interact with men.<br />Oh, and you might not want to call it a "rant" she may take offense at that word and you'll be in the doghouse again.<br /><br /><br />PS Thought you'd like to know that I had to go see an opera this past Sat. with my mum and I couldnt last through the second act so I left...also Mark has a present for you we got in Vegas (ok I fully admit I MADE him get it, coz after all he's a guy, and you guys don't get gifts for each other) :)DelGalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-4246449263276848612012-07-02T20:23:44.935+01:002012-07-02T20:23:44.935+01:00hi drb,
I must admit my reaction would have been ...hi drb,<br /><br />I must admit my reaction would have been similar to yours ....<br /><br />:0)<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />PMPlastic Mancunianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-70220031980805078022012-07-01T23:39:57.010+01:002012-07-01T23:39:57.010+01:00Oh Mr PM,
24 h ago, we were at SFO (San Francisco ...Oh Mr PM,<br />24 h ago, we were at SFO (San Francisco airport) , my blood pressure raised when I saw Rob came back from the conveyor belt with my luggage bag - with bit so f clothing stcking out. It was heled together with industrial strength sticky tape. The blooddy TSA custom officer had broken the lock!!! Suitscase cost US$500. Previously, they had broken another that costs US$600.<br /><br />Fuming, I marched to Baggage Inquiry - United Airline staff said,"NO, we don't break locks, the TSA do. They area upstairs."<br /><br />I went upstairs, and couldn't find the bloody office. Getting madder.<br /><br />The whole time, Rob was following me in silence while I was muttering,"Can't believe they do it to me again!!! This time we supposely bught Samsonite because the locks are supposed to be TSA complaniant. The bloody TSA blah blah blah.."<br /><br />Finally (~10 min later), I gave up and said,"Let's go and check in for the connecting flight. Hopefully, we can claim it on Tavel Insurance."<br /><br />Rob nodded.drbnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-38279839230942478742012-06-30T16:28:53.515+01:002012-06-30T16:28:53.515+01:00Hi River,
That sounds like real role reversal. I ...Hi River,<br /><br />That sounds like real role reversal. I need to find my feminine side I think. <br /><br />:0)<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />PMPlastic Mancunianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-24838730131403318212012-06-30T12:32:29.498+01:002012-06-30T12:32:29.498+01:00You're right. It is a man thing to want to fix...You're right. It is a man thing to want to fix things. There's a problem? You'll fix it, you're a man after all, it's what men do. <br />It's the way men are wired. It's been that way since the dawn of time. <br />And here's where I have a problem with that. I'm a woman, yet my instinctive reaction to problems is to find or offer solutions. I can't help it, I blurt out things like "you should" or "I would have..."<br />It's possible I learned this because I was raised by my dad, or maybe I just have more "yang" influence than "yin". Under chinese horoscope my sign is listed as yang and that's male. <br />I noticed this more intensely when married to L. His feminine side is much stronger than his manly side, and when things went badly for him and he wanted to talk out his feelings, I couldn't cope very well with that. I found myself saying "why didn't you..." or why don't you do..."<br />As I get older, I'm learning to listen more, but on the inside I'm screaming what are you going on about, why don't you just....<br />I'm so confused.Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14794655013673748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-3476239996340183682012-06-30T11:25:29.371+01:002012-06-30T11:25:29.371+01:00Hi drb,
I'm fairly laid back too - I rarely g...Hi drb,<br /><br />I'm fairly laid back too - I rarely get upset these days. <br /><br />OK - I rant - but I do so with a smile on my face.<br /><br />Rob sure does sound lucky :-)<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />PMPlastic Mancunianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-57913900709837782832012-06-30T03:55:29.511+01:002012-06-30T03:55:29.511+01:00Mr PM,
I am totally with you this time. I want to ...Mr PM,<br />I am totally with you this time. I want to offer solutions when my gfs are complaining or venting too! And get called smarty pants or something worse since a child.<br /><br />To me, getting upset is a waste of energy. I think I actually only allow myself about 5 min to get upset about stuff, have some food and then regroup.<br /><br />Therefore, I always tell Rob he is lucky to marry me as I am not wired normally. :-) His life is cruisy... more of the time except with my dyslexia and inability to locate stuff even when it is right under my nose.<br /><br />However, I have learnt that everyone has to learn their own lessons and will only offer solutions if asked.drbnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-4760146754701541892012-06-29T16:17:39.804+01:002012-06-29T16:17:39.804+01:00Hi Grace,
Brilliantly explained :0)
That's e...Hi Grace,<br /><br />Brilliantly explained :0)<br /><br />That's exactly what Mrs PM did. <br /><br />I will adopt that approach for sure!<br /><br />I'm learning so much :-)<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />PMPlastic Mancunianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-25351026999536020032012-06-29T14:03:31.649+01:002012-06-29T14:03:31.649+01:00Oh you are wrong - Wrong with a capital "W&qu...Oh you are wrong - Wrong with a capital "W" - Wrong with all caps. So very, very wrong. And no you are not generalizing too much - <br /><br />And yes, all men do this - men are always trying to "fix" things - (except the things that really need fixing - like a leaky faucet).<br /><br />Women "vent" - we need to just get all this stuff off our minds, out in the open where we can see them more clearly - and then we can fix the problem ourselves. If we need help or advice, we will ask for it (unlike men). <br /><br />My husband took a supervisory position and most of the people working for him were women - I had to explain to him that women vent - they were not coming into his office looking for him to solve their problems - they just wanted him to listen. I advised him to always keep a box of tissues on his desk and to just LISTEN.<br /><br />He finally gave up trying to figure out when his help was needed and when it wasn't - He would just flat out ask "Are you just venting or do you want me to do something about this?" The women actually appreciated it.<br /><br />When I just need him to listen I preface my little rants with "I'm just venting - your input is not needed" It works for us...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-46685131575303773592012-06-29T12:49:21.712+01:002012-06-29T12:49:21.712+01:00Bonjour Kath,
I will remember that. I already kno...Bonjour Kath,<br /><br />I will remember that. I already know that chocolate and/or a glass of wine are winners too.<br /><br />:0)<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />PMPlastic Mancunianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-33928106190527703702012-06-29T12:47:14.140+01:002012-06-29T12:47:14.140+01:00Hi Elisabeth,
Many thanks for your insights.
Act...Hi Elisabeth,<br /><br />Many thanks for your insights.<br /><br />Actually, since you mention it, I have met men who are sympathetic and women who focus on action too.<br /><br />I agree - it is a matter of degree.<br /><br />:0)<br /><br />Cheers<br /><br />PMPlastic Mancunianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01864213919913476168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-13010860554867676872012-06-29T12:25:45.552+01:002012-06-29T12:25:45.552+01:00Sympathy and arms ready for a hug always win. Alw...Sympathy and arms ready for a hug always win. Always. Offering to make a cup of tea and then bringing it out with some chocolate as well also wins big time.MedicatedMoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08609190990579743429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4170913783015287649.post-21292426938171585302012-06-29T09:59:26.100+01:002012-06-29T09:59:26.100+01:00You may be generalising, PM, but it's a genera...You may be generalising, PM, but it's a generalisation with which I'm inclined to agree. As a woman I've noticed the same thing with my husband. And when I tell him stories he gets frustrated if I take too long to get to the point, but for me the telling is in part the point. I'm not as Mrs PM suggesting I want solutions. No, more often than not I too want to be heard. <br /><br />I like to work most things out for myself in the end, but equally I enjoy the input of men because they offer a different perspective as long as it's not too hastily offered and they are also able to listen to my distress or anger or rage or whatever else is going on at that moment.<br /><br />The point seems to be that men are not so effective at handling emotions as women. Men are more into action. <br />We are wired differently, culturally, sociologically, biologically etc. On the other hand it's not set in stone and much of the difference is constructed. <br /><br />I've talked to women who can be all action and men who are deeply empathic. I suppose it's a matter of degree.<br /><br />Thanks for a fascinating post.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.com